You have to travel through what you have to travel through in order to get where you are going.  In order to become the person you wish to become you have to go through what you have to go through.  That is your mountain that you cannot lower.  Presumably you are now a better person for having gone through life’s struggles so far.  If not, you have missed opportunities to learn, grow, and get stronger. Each step of the climb offers just that, lessons.  You cannot learn from those lessons if you focus on the pain rather than being open to asking yourself what can I learn from this.  Everything happens for a reason.  The challenge is to understand that reason and what it is offering us.  We have to be available to understand the lessons.    As always taking the “I” out is required.  Otherwise you are prone to focus on the pain in the state of  a victim.